How Can Love Affect Mental Health?

Valentine’s Day is just virtually the corner. Feeling loved and feeling love for others has a positive effect on mental health and those who finger loved and love others wits fewer depressive symptoms than those who do not. But love can show up and shape our lives in a unconfined many variegated ways that are not romantic.

Although many people might focus on triumphal romantic love on 14^th February each year, perhaps there’s an importance on broadening the definition of love to make Valentine’s day increasingly inclusive. While relationships stupefy mental health and mental health affects relationships, vestige suggests relationships stupefy mental health far more than vice versa. And while relationships are unmistakably important to mental well-being they do not have to be romantic.

9 Types of Love

While there are many thoughts on how many variegated types of love there might be, the Ancient Greeks had 9 variegated ways to describe love in its various forms:

• Eros: romantic, passionate love
• Philia: intimate, pure friendship or platonic love
• Philautia: understanding self-love
• Ludus: playful, flirtatious love
• Storge: devoted love often associated with family
• Pragma: mature, dutiful, reasonable love based upon shared goals
• Agape: unconditional, universal love
• Mania: obsessive love
• Meraki: love of creating

So, let’s take a squint at each of these loves and how they relate to mental health.

Eros: Romantic and passionate love

The most worldwide form of love when thinking well-nigh the heart-shaped chocolate boxes, red roses and images of Cupid that varnish shop windows every February is ‘eros’, meaning romantic and passionate love.

For many of us, young love can play a key role in minutiae and may be a source of both well-being and mental challenges. There is a call, therefore, for increasingly education to be provided for children and young people to help largest prepare them for the challenges romance might hold.

Romance can moreover lead to sexual encounters, which are closely linked to mental well-being in a variegated way. The benefits of a healthy sex life are clear. People who were sexually zippy during lockdowns in the Covid-19 pandemic experienced less uneasiness and depression whereas lack of sexual worriedness was linked to higher risk of peepers and anxiety.

But what well-nigh unstudied romance and passion? People who enjoy unstudied sexual encounters tend to rate them as positive emotional experiences. However, these encounters are moreover linked to worsening mood over time.

So, science suggests learning how to make empowered decisions virtually sexual choices could be a positive step for the mental health of people looking for romantic, passionate love.

It’s important to note that romantic love is not gender-specific. Those in the LGBTQAI polity may be reluctant to seek help if they’re struggling with mental health challenges for fear of favoritism or stigma.

For everyone, no matter their sexuality, to get the help they need from services without discrimination, transpiration is needed, equal to research sensitivity and respect is vital.

Philia: friendship or platonic love

The benefits of platonic love or friendship are wide-reaching and deserve to be prestigious just as much as romance.

Friendships are a hugely important source of happiness, well-being and health no matter our age. Whether in school, work, polity or plane in counselling, friendships stupefy our well-being. In our younger years, friendships are crucial in younger development, as Mina Fazel and colleagues discovered. Mina presented at MQ’s Science Festival in 2021. For young people, friendships can promote mental health sensation and conviction to seek help as well as prevent isolation which is known to be rabble-rousing to mental health.

The types of friends we have can impact our mental health directly too. How much fun we have with our friends, how much we revere them and how reliable and helpful they are have variegated effects on our well-being. So, with increasingly and increasingly people triumphal Galentine’s Day on 13^th of February and Palentine’s too, science seems to suggest it’s important to gloat our friendships.

Philautia: understanding self-love

Loving ourselves and caring for ourselves can be a struggle for those of us who live with mental health conditions, yet can hold unconfined benefits. Compassion training within organisations not only increases self-compassion or self-love but it is moreover likely to subtract stress and mental ill-health.

The importance of self-compassion is spreading now plane to mental health professionals. They themselves have one of the most stressful jobs, equal to evidence, and the benefits of self-compassion for therapists is now a hot topic for the field.

However, self-love is a controversial construct nowadays. Perceptions on self-love have been divided into either “good” self-love that encourages well-being or “bad” self-love linked to narcissism and selfishness. One only needs to go onto social media to see these polarised views thrown well-nigh with passion.

Narcissistic Personality Disorder is itself a mental health condition and not the same as loving yourself. Self-love, on the other hand, has three components:

1. giving sustentation to yourself
2. accepting yourself
3. caring for and protecting yourself

Self-love therefore is unmistakably unfluctuating to psychological health and well-being.

Young people see self-love in a positive light associating it with resilience, protection from negativity which therefore leads to prevention of peepers or anxiety. And yet, cultural norms can hinder the development of self-love, meaning that if those virtually us view self-love as selfish young people are less likely to practice this demonstrably positive practice.

Ludus: Flirting, playful love

Flirtatious or playful love is scientifically nonflexible to define. It’s an zipped social interaction and can be interpreted or misinterpreted in many variegated ways.

What can be measured is the types of people who tend to enjoy flirtatious behaviour. These people tend to be extroverted and outgoing but their reasons to flirt can be varied. They may flirt to simply have fun, explore the people virtually them, build relationships, enjoy sexual encounters or simply to get something.

Playfulness, on the other hand, can prove a fantastic tool for combatting mental ill-health. Playful responses to the pandemic were salubrious in helping people stay connected. People who are increasingly playful in their tideway to life are more likely to be physically and mentally healthier as well as increasingly active. While it may be dismissed by some, there’s a lot to gloat in playful, flirtatious love.

Storge: devoted or family love

Stronger family relationships are closely associated with good health. This is partly lanugo to the emotional, practical and informational support families might provide. Support from families can reduce stress, particularly when it comes to finances but not exclusively in this area.

From how we were raised to how we relate to those we are biologically or societally related to has huge consequences for our mental well-being throughout our life. Family support is particularly helpful in protecting the mental well-being of children and young people. A safe, secure and supportive home environment is one major factor in a child’s development.

However, next of kin doesn’t automatically equate to supportive kinship. Not all of us have strong relationships with siblings, parents or extended family. Diverse family structures and plane the unexpected benefits of relationship strain are all areas ripe for remoter research. Coping with difficult family relationships is a rencontre for mental health which is why MQ created this helpful vendible on the subject.

Pragma: mature, dutiful, reasonable love

There are four main aspects to long-term partnership: nomination of partner, romance, sexual connection and pair-bonding. If romance and sexual connection are closely related to ‘Eros’, ‘Pragma’ could be seen as most closely linked to ‘pair-bonding’.

Although the idea of this ‘mature, dutiful’ love need not be exclusively related to marriage, can transferral of this kind promote maturity of love?

Marriage nowadays is not a requirement to proceeds social acceptance. In fact, in the USA, more people are unmarried than overly before. This might be considering people are living together more often and getting married later in life. However, most people still would like to get married and, equal to research, over 90% of people do marry at some point in their lifetime.

However, evidence suggests that increasingly established, single-minded relationships, like marriage, do promote largest health and happiness than less single-minded partnerships such as cohabitation. And there are benefits to marriage for both old and young. For older people, compassionate love reduces loneliness and improves psychological wellbeing, while for younger people, marriage tends to make them happier than those who are unmarried. Equal to research, those married between the month of 22 and 26 are more satisfied with their lives, and moreover tend to drink less alcohol.

For anyone concerned with marriage killing all hope of long-term love and romance, evidence suggests marital satisfaction does not ripen over time but in fact remains relatively stable. However, as a word of warning, if problems are there at the start, such as poor communication, they are unlikely to transpiration and plane if things do transpiration it doesn’t necessarily lead to a happier relationship.

Agape: universal, unconditional love

Universal love might be considered when thinking of love of nature, the world, strangers or for a higher power. Unconditional love might be considered as similar to maternal love but is slightly variegated when looking at areas of the smart-ass that are unfluctuating to these similar but subtly variegated loves. This type of love might seem illusive but there is a distinct network in the smart-ass that works when love is unconditional and appears to be separate to other networks in the smart-ass related to other emotions.

This same network is moreover shared with the brain’s reward system, suggesting when we finger unconditional love, we finger rewarded. This, withal with other increasingly selfless reasons, could be a unconfined motivation to nurture feelings of unconditional love.

So how do we nurture love? In science, the Quadruple Theory aims to make love easier to understand and therefore easier to nurture, cultivate, regulate and preserve.

This theory states two important points well-nigh love: 1) love is universal and applies to people of all cultures, races ethnicities, religion and sexual orientations and 2) culture has a huge effect on how people behave towards each other.

Mania: obsessive love

Linguistically speaking, ‘mania’ is a complicated word when it comes to mental health. Mania is associated with some mental illnesses. The roots of the word are from the Greek and Latin ‘mania’ meaning “insanity, madness, frenzy” or “enthusiasm, inspired, passion, fury”. In the mental health world, clinically, mania is specified as hyperactivity, increased speech and matted thought accompanied by either elevated or depressive mood associated with bipolar disorder. This as a mental health diagnosis is important to separate from the idea of ‘obsession’ or ‘love’.

Looking into the idea of ‘obsessive love’, there is a link with mental health conditions. Romantic love can in fact shape an wits of obsessive compulsive disorder (OCD), expressly regarding sensory phenomena/sensitivity to sensations and depending on the age at which OCD begins.

Also, people with Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD) can sometimes form an intense zipper towards what is know as their ‘Favourite Person’. This relationship can wilt mutually treasonous as feelings go vastitude their control.

It’s crucial to point out the importance of lamister stigma or misunderstanding of these ramified and distressing mental health experiences. Compassion and further research is needed to largest understand how to help those that have these illnesses and those that love them.

Meraki: love of creating

Doing something you love or the love of creating is a very special kind of active, life-affirming and empowering love. Creativity can help with mental health, that is why we created this vendible explaining how the art of creating something from nothing, be it painting, baking, gardening, singing, playing music, writing or so much increasingly can promote largest mental health.

Creativity can moreover bring well-nigh a feeling of warmth, happiness and humour. Laughter is in fact moreover good for mental health whether you’re the one joking or the one enjoying a chuckle. There are many ways to enjoy the creativity of others particularly through music whether that might be remotely, say, by looking forward to Eurovision on 11th May 2024 or by peekaboo a music festival or other live event, all of which can goody mental well-being.

Whether you love your friends, family, partner, spouse, yourself or your creativity, love in many of its various forms and its goody to our mental health is worth celebrating.